it’s so stupid that we’re expected to pay over $200,000 for a college degree
american education system what r u doin
do you ever get sad over something that happened a long time ago because i do
Lorde is 17 and just won 2 Grammys I’m 21 and I spilled yogurt on my chest this morning
i love vines and super short videos cause its like “man this video is only 4 seconds how much could happen in 4 seconds” so much man So Much
Are you the SAT because I’d do you for 3 hours and 45 minutes with a 10 minute break halfway through for snacks, and then I can stare at you for like 10 minutes and think ‘wow, I hope I don’t ruin this.’
don’t let your social anxiety define you or use that as an excuse. what I mean is, who says you can’t wake up one morning and decide you’re not nervous? who says your next 5 seconds have to be the same as the last? my favorite quote is: you don’t have to be same person to were 5 minutes ago. you grow every second.
now I’m not saying you’re going to completely transform in one day, but take every day as a learning experience, a time push outside the envelope, and step outside your comfort zone little by little
make a goal of talking to one new person a day, even if its just a compliment, a question, something homework-related
remember: you’re a person. they’re a person. other people shouldn’t make you so nervous. remind yourself that no matter how judgmental or intimidating someone seems, they’re just like you. they have hopes, dreams, fears, insecurities, quirks, ect.
first you have to stop putting yourself down. you’re nervous because you assume everyone else is smarter, prettier, more qualified, funnier, more personable in any situation. this isn’t true. you are not inferior. you are an equal. you don’t have to feel ashamed or insecure. it took me a long time to realize that we judge ourselves more than others do, and we let our fear of judgment scare us so much that we don’t do the things we want. don’t let the fear of judgment control you and your actions
start by faking confidence. get to school and smile or wave to someone you know in the halls. walk up to someone before/after class and start a conversation. pretend to be carefree. take it as a little acting gig and see how out there you can try and get - talk to new people, raise your hand in class, walk with someone after class, approach an old friend, ect. talk with someone and continue the conversation in the halls or on the way to lunch. ask to study with someone after school or during lunch
eventually you will become more comfortable with this and won’t even be acting. take little by little and always remind yourself: they’re just a person, what’s the worst thing that can happen